She Feared Investing in Herself and Not Succeeding (Maureen’s Story)

Ep: 175

Have you ever known in your gut that you should do something, but your fear of the unknown holds you back? 

Do you feel like your case is unique and worry that if you invest in yourself, you might not get the results you’re looking for? 

If there’s one thing we know to be true from the clients we’ve helped, it’s this: It’s time to stop overthinking and choose change. 

Today on The Bridge to Fulfillment, Blake welcomes Maureen to tell her story. Like so many women you’ve heard in our client success stories, she wasn’t sure at first that career coaching could help her. But something told her that it was time to make an investment in herself. And today, she’s here to share how career coaching has changed her life for the better.

In this episode, you’ll learn where Maureen started and the fears she was experiencing prior to joining the program. She explains what convinced her to finally make the investment in herself and to get in the driver’s seat of her life and career. She shares the lessons she’s learned, how she applies them to her daily life and decision-making process, and how the program has changed her understanding of what she truly desires out of life.


What You’ll Learn:

  • Where the journey began for Maureen (2:47)
  • The root cause of the fear she was experiencing (8:54)
  • Regaining control after spiraling out (15:26)
  • What the program taught her about what she really wants out of life (21:03)


Favorite Quotes:

  1. If you are willing to invest in yourself, you will get exactly what you want out of the program. It’s ultimately up to you. You’re the driver of it. -Maureen
  2. Even now, I don’t have perfect weeks, I don’t have perfect days. But what I do have now is the clarity and the wherewithal to recognize that and say, ‘Okay, this is happening. This is how I’m going to get back on track. This is how I need to get back to my foundations and schedule and routine to get back to where I need to be’. -Maureen
  3. I know I just needed to reach out, ask for help, and lean on others to get the help advice and direction that I really was missing and needed. Together, we all can help each other and get to where we want to be and live our best, most amazing, happiest lives.  -Maureen
  4. I felt like my situation was unique, like I was the only person that was drowning in work and not believing in myself and just feeling stuck. Coming into this program and meeting all the other amazing women, now I know I’m not alone. -Maureen


Additional Resources: 

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Maureen 0:02 I was making myself crazy just waffling on the decision. When I knew after a first meeting in my gut that this is the right thing for me, I knew I was like in such a tough place and so burnt out and tired and exhausted. I was worried that like, I wasn’t going to put in enough effort to get out what I wanted. I felt like my situation was unique. I was the only person that was drowning in work and not believing in myself and just feeling really stuck. And coming into this program and meeting all the other amazing women in the program hearing Blake story. I know I’m not alone. And I know I just needed to reach out ask for help and lean on others to get the help advice and direction that I really was missing in needed. I can’t say enough great things about this program, I think it really, truly changed my life.

Blake Schofield 1:08 Hi, I’m Blake Schofield, founder and CEO of The Bridge to Fulfillment, mom to three, USA Today top 10 professional coach, and former corporate executive who got tired of sacrificing my life for a comfortable paycheck. My mission is to expand women’s perspectives and empower them to achieve greater impact at home and work without sacrifice. This is The Bridge to Fulfillment. Hello, and welcome to The Bridge to Fulfillment. I’m really excited to have my client Maureen on the show today sharing her success story. You know, just even walking through some of the lessons and the things she’s learned. There’s so much that was going on in her life, so much about her perspective about her career and her life that I think really will resonate with you. And so I’m excited for her to be able to share. And with that said, welcome Miss Maureen happy to have you.

Maureen 2:10 Hi, Blake, thank you so much for having me. I’m very excited to be here to talk with you again today. See you again.

Blake Schofield 2:15 I know me too. Well, lady. As always, I’d love to give the audience a little bit of an understanding about who you are, what was going on in your life when we connected. And just a little bit about your background. So I’m gonna turn it over to you to share.

Maureen 2:28 Sure, Blake can reach out to me on LinkedIn back in February, so about five months ago at this point, and I remember seeing your message I don’t think I responded right away. But she really reached out to me at a point when I was having a hard time I wasn’t in the best mental place. So to back up a little bit. I have been at the same company for just about 10 years now. So it was really my first job out of college, I have worked my way up through the organization, I’ve had some amazing opportunities have really positioned myself as a leader in the company and a business driver. And I’ve achieved so much in my in my 10 years. But with that came a lot of hard work and prioritizing work above all else a lot of times and when Blake could reach out to me, I was really tired. I just was in a place where I didn’t have a lot of motivation during work outside of work, I was lacking energy, I really was having a lot of the feelings of burnout, I felt like I wasn’t performing and I wasn’t happy. And I felt really trapped and not sure where to go. I had started my job search a little bit, I had gotten some interviews actually was offered a role but ended up turning them down. The company just didn’t feel like a good fit. And I interviewed another place and ultimately did not get that job. But it was really uncertain about what I wanted to do. I was uncertain whether I wanted to stay in retail to explore something different. You know, I was just feeling a bit overwhelmed. I was already tired as is with after work and drained all day. So job searching and hunting just felt like a lot. I really wasn’t sure what to do. Should I just keep working on my resume, keep searching on LinkedIn do what I was doing. And what I get an extra job was that what I wanted, I knew I didn’t want to just jump into another role another company just to do it just to leave. I knew I wanted to be somewhere that was right for me. So you know I toyed with the idea a little bit, but ultimately, I knew I needed some help and like it was serendipitous that she reached out to me and I figured you know what, what the heck, we’ll talk and see what she has to say.

Blake Schofield 4:38 So as you went through this, it seems like in some ways, the timing to your point, just sort of perfect. You’re like I’m feeling this and here’s this opportunity and why not explore why not identify if that’s the right thing. You as you went through that process and we had some conversations and talked about your experience and you know, potentially working together what was that experience like? like for you, and what questions or things were you debating about in your mind?

Maureen 5:04 Yeah. So like I mentioned, this has been my first job out of college. So I am in my early 30s. I was wondering, is this investment it is it is an investment in myself is this? Am I too young for this? Like, is this the best way for me to spend my time spent my money on myself? Right? That was daunting. I’ve never done anything like this, my friends had never done anything family, you know, I didn’t have many points of reference. So it felt like a big leap. At first, I also was nervous about, like, how much time I would have with Blake, I really wanted to understand the ROI. I know, we had a lot of conversations around that. And what am I going to get out of this program, I was really trying to push and understand what I was gonna get out of it. And I really liked how you would say you get what you put into it. And if you are willing to invest in yourself, you will get exactly what you want out of the program. It’s ultimately up to you. You’re the driver of it. Those are some of the big questions I had in the beginning of the program. I just remember the first time that we met and you walked me through, like that spoke to my core, I was a little scared about how much you spoke to me and like got through to me. And it shocked me that you were speaking directly to me, we hadn’t even met and you were speaking to all the things that I was feeling thinking that made me a little uneasy, too, because I was like how how so once I ultimately thought and put a lot of thought on it. I know, you went back and forth a couple of times. And that was waffling on my decision, I was having a really hard time making the decision. And we’re on a call, I had a week to think about it. I was researching on my own trying to make sure this is the best investment for myself. And you looked at me and you were like, what other information do you need to make this decision? What do you need? What’s left, because if there’s something else left, then I’m happy to provide it. But if there’s nothing else, then I think you need to make your gut decision and go with your gut. And ultimately, my gut was screaming, this is the right decision. There’s nothing else there was fear holding you back. That was really the only thing that was holding me back. And I’m just so glad that I made that decision today.

Blake Schofield 7:08 That’s awesome. Thank you for sharing that I think you going through that brought back some memories flooding to me of that conversation. And it was very clear to me that this was the right partnership. But there were to your point, so many barriers in your way. You had no experience with anybody else that had done this. And you’re like me, your natural researchers who want to feel like you’ve done your due diligence you did if I remember correctly, do I remember this correctly that you did either speak with some other coaches who are researching other coaches, too? Yes, yes. And I remember kind of going through that process. And it’s like, I’ll answer any question that you have. And I’m one of the things I think it’s really important to kind of understand and highlight here is how often fear causes us to make really poor decisions. When we lean into it. I can’t tell you the number of women I’ve talked to who out of fear, don’t ask the questions they need to ask, don’t share what they’re experiencing or feeling and actually identify, is it true or not? And what I remember from our conversation was just your openness to saying this is what I’m struggling with, or this is what I’m dealing with. And we would have you would not be here today in the circumstance that you are if you weren’t willing to have that conversation with me, where it was like, Listen, if we uncover something that says this isn’t the right partnership, I’ll tell you, but I can’t help you make a decision or get clear. You’re getting unstuck if I don’t know what you’re struggling you’re dealing with and I think it just reminds me so much of that conversation, which I guess much like childbirth. Sometimes you forget some of these things. I’ve forgotten some of that into so that I’m like, Oh, yes, I remember. Yeah. Remember now that journey, your tenacity and your openness to be willing to walk through talk through investigate? It is why you’re here today. Because if you wouldn’t have and there are many women I’ve talked to will shut down and I’m like, you have to be willing to start to challenge sometimes what things say to you, what was your biggest fear knowing that you okay, you’re missing context, I don’t have any friends, family, parents, etc. who have done this, it is an investment in my too young, right? What was the real root cause of the fear that was causing you to doubt yourself and spend all of this time researching and in your head?

Maureen 9:12 And not to mention the stress and worry that I was just absolutely torturing myself with because I internalized it so much like that is a big point that I was struggling with. I was making myself crazy just waffling on the decision. When I knew after a first meeting in my gut that this is the right thing for me. I was worried that I wasn’t going to come in retail like ROI metrics are really important to me. I knew I was like in such a tough place and so burnt out and tired and exhausted. I was worried that like I wasn’t going to put in enough effort to get out what I wanted. I was worried that I had been an achiever, and will continue to be an achiever for my whole life. But I was worried I wasn’t going to achieve what I wanted to in this goal because I was just not in a good place when we feel first met, and I didn’t want to come to the end of the three months and feel like I had wasted my time, your time, the money, which doesn’t even matter anymore. But you know, I was nervous about that, in general.

Blake Schofield 10:14 I think that’s a really common fear. And now that you have been through this journey, what would you say back to the old you that was worried because of how you felt then about your ability to be successful in the program?

Maureen 10:27 I learned the first lesson in that call with you with the decision making, like I just think I was focused on getting a new role a new job, and I didn’t understand the immense impact this would have on my entire life, I just was too narrowly focused on the work on the outputs. And I didn’t even realize that there’s so many small steps along the way, it’s not as big of a lift, it seems overwhelming at the beginning, but it’s broken down. And there are so many small wins along the way that carry you and start to get the wind under your sails that give you the momentum to want to continue to do better and better and do more and invest in yourself more as you go.

Blake Schofield 11:10 Awesome. I often think we have what’s called recency bias, where we make decisions from how we feel today, assuming how we feel today is what will continue for the rest of our future. Is it possible when you looked at how exhausted and drained you were that you thought, Well, gosh, if I’m this exhausted and drained the entire three months of the program, there’s no way I’m going to have the energy to do it. And so what didn’t you know, how long did it take you in the program? Looking back, do you think to shift, though, that lack of energy and lack of motivation? At which point do you think that shifted for you?

Maureen 11:47 I think I saw I had a lot of progress quickly, or I felt immediate shift quickly. But then I and then I hit a roadblock. And I think you and I talked about it, it’s not all about there’s going to be ebbs and flows throughout the journey, right. And so I felt a lot of momentum the first couple of weeks, and then probably a month and I was like, oh, wait a second, I’m slipping back into old habits. I felt like I lost my momentum. And that was demotivating for me, and it was a little bit challenging. And I started getting into my head again and thinking these thoughts where I’m not doing a good job I’m behind on the program, I’m not getting out what I need to I’m not working hard enough. All of these limiting beliefs that were distracting me from just getting myself back on track. I think once I was able to work through that with you and kind of get over those obstacles, I really think you know, right after a month, I really felt such an immense shift in perspective. Like I said, it ebbs and flows. So I mean, sometimes I would take five steps forward, and seven steps back. And I think the thing that, especially reflecting now that I’ve seen is, even now I don’t have perfect weeks, I don’t have perfect days. But what I do have now is the clarity and the wherewithal to recognize that and say, Okay, this is happening. This is how I’m going to get back on track. This is how I need to get back to my foundations and schedule and routine to get back to where I need to be. And that will set me up to be successful again, I just get back into a better rhythm much, much quicker than I used to.

Blake Schofield 13:23 My mentor this week was talking about how we’re never going to be able to stop all the self doubt and the things that will come our way. We’re human beings. That’s just how we’re built. But faster recovery is immense progress as a human being. Yes. And I think back to my days before I had these tools, and when I got into what I would call a mental spiral. Right? And hopefully those of you listening, understand what I mean, right? It’s when you start second guessing everything. And you’re exactly what you said, Maurine, all this stress, all these feelings of I feel trapped, I don’t know what to do. I would be trapped in those form weeks or months of this anxiety and it would eat at my entire life because all I could do was think in a spiral. And I haven’t done that in years. Now do I still get into mental spirals? Sure had one this week. But I got in and out of it in 24 hours. And what I love about what you shared is an add think that this is such an important thing is people often look at what this program is from such a limited perspective. And I’m always hoping that these stories will help women really understand what it really is. What I heard from you is I now have a I have the self awareness to understand what stories I’m telling myself and start to challenge whether they’re true or not be I have the tools that I know work for me. So when I end see I now no longer expect myself to be perfect. I accept that life is not a straight line that It is gonna be right good days and bad days. But as long as I’m improving, raising the floor is what my mentor calls right and raising the floor, my lows are less low, and I keep getting better than everything improves in my life. It’s an I give myself the grace to not get into guilt and shame spirals, beat myself up, etc. Because I feel in control of my ability to get what I want in my life and in control of how I feel or how I’m managing my feelings. Is that right? Or am I overstepping?

Maureen 15:26 No, no, that’s totally right. And I think what you just started to speak about is something that I felt like I didn’t have when it first started, I was letting life control me, I was letting my days control me, I was not in charge of my life, I was not in charge of my day. And you know, from just the affirmations in the morning magic every day, like that’s my favorite one that I read every single day, I’m in control of my life, I’m in control of my day. And I am the one who’s driving the train here, no one else I can’t let it get derailed. And I think that it’s been just such an important mind shift for me, to not let life happen to me to make sure that I’m in the driver’s seat, and I’m doing what I need to do what I want to do to ultimately get where I want to be, because otherwise, I’m never going to get there. If I let things get in my way.

Blake Schofield 16:21 You shared a little bit about some of your learnings. How has this program and this work changed your life? Like what are some tangible things that have happened in your life as a result of it?

Maureen 16:30 I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting, especially this last week, when like, asked me to be on this podcast. And I mean, there’s just so many, and I just keep having more and more. It’s amazing. I mean, I just would have never never imagined the type of things that would affect me. And you know, I think I’ve learned so many skills in terms of positioning myself for the right role networking, communicating what I really want, and those are really setting me up during my job search. But I think the biggest things that I learned are really more holistic for my entire life, I have more energy every day, like I don’t sign off and feel totally drained and like, be lying to the couch anymore, I take my dog for a walk, I make dinner with my husband, you know, I meet up with friends, like I just have more of a zest for life, I got that back again, I have boundaries, and I know how to prioritize my day my work schedule, then those around me so that I can do what I really want. And I can prioritize my family, my friends, exercising my mental health, travel, you know, things that are really important to me and make me happy, I now feel like I have the tools to be able to prioritize those. I think I have been become more productive at work, I am still in my role that I was when I started. But I have the tools and the skills to be able to be more productive and to be engaged at work and motivated. Ultimately, knowing that like this is not gonna be my job for forever. But right now, I can do what I need to do. And I do not feel drained. And I do not feel like I am stuck and just underwater everyday like I was before. And I think the biggest thing, you know, we touched on a little bit, I was really, really struggling with impostor syndrome, I really doubted myself. And looking back I know I have achieved so much I have results on paper. But I didn’t believe in myself. I lost the spark. And I remember one session with Brett that really, really moved me and she had us think back to when we were little girls six or seven years old and to look at yourself now from that lens of a little girl and just look at your life. Look at what you’ve accomplished. Look at where you are right now. And I remember it like it brought me to tears because I was like, why am I beating myself up for where I am like, I would have had no idea as a young girl like, this is where I am. This is all I’ve achieved. And just understanding that there’s so much more for me to achieve in my life. I’m not done yet. And I it really shifted my mindset to be proud of where I am and what I’ve done and just excited for what’s to come. I’m still in the job search, like I was saying, but I think my mind shift is that I have absolute confidence that I will find the next role. I know that I have the tools and skills to present myself, well I know how to network with others. I know how to make connections. And that’s what’s really going to get me to where I want to go. But I think the shift also is that I’m not rushing myself I am not I did not give myself a deadline and have to get a job by this date. I’m enjoying the process of learning and researching because that’s always been really fun for me. I’m an inquisitive person and I love digging into things and researching so I’m really just enjoying that right now and I would have had I not taken this program. I sure I would have been just beating myself up for now. I in a new role not progressing in my career search as I would have thought I needed to, or what society or friends or whatever outside beliefs may have directed to me.

Blake Schofield 20:14 You mentioned early on that one of the reasons you came and ended up ultimately joining the bridge to fulfillment was you just lacked clarity on what that right next path was for you whether you should stay in the industry or do something different. Often I hear from women that listen to success stories, and they’re like, I just don’t understand how this works. I just don’t understand how you can get clarity. And I just point them back to the six steps we do and the bridge to fulfillment. But I’m interested to hear you share a little bit, is there anything you could share to help illuminate what that experience has been like for you? And what’s the impact that you now understand, on lack of clarity or lack of alignment in your life versus actually understanding what it is you want need in order to be aligned in your life?

Maureen 21:00 Yeah. So I think it’s broken, the clarity portion of the program is broken down into so many different aspects. But I think just understanding what ultimately drives you as an individual, what’s important to you? Where do you succeed, and where do you not succeed. So you know, upfront, this is what I need in a role, this is what I need to avoid as much as possible. And those things may have shifted, I found, you know, when doing this work that like some things that I thought I loved, or that I had loved when I was 22, when I first came into this role are not true now, right? My life has evolved and my needs and my wants and desires and dreams have evolved. And so I need to shift what I’m looking for. And what’s important to me. I think you also just dig into what’s the right work environment? What’s the right company type, what’s the right size, hybrid versus in person remote, like things that, obviously are important, but I’ve may not have even like really dug into that and thought about it in detail like we did. So I think it just really breaks it down into all the different aspects that you need in order to make not just the next job, but the right next job for you.

Blake Schofield 22:13 Lady, you have been so articulate that I cannot think of anything else to ask you other than Is there anything I haven’t asked you that I should have, or anything that’s just on your heart that you would like to share?

Maureen 22:28 I just think we covered a lot. But I think it’s just so, so important to know that it’s okay to ask for help. And it’s important to ask for help. I felt like my situation was unique. I was the only person that was drowning in work and not believing in myself and just feeling really stuck. And coming into this program and meeting all the other amazing women in the program. Hearing Blake’s story. I know I’m not alone. And I know I just needed to reach out, ask for help and lean on others to get the help advice and direction that I really was missing and needed. I think together like we all can help each other and get to where we want to be to be living our best, most amazing, happiest lives. And so I just, I can’t say enough great things about this program. I think it really, truly changed my life. And my husband knows and my family knows everyone around me has really, you know, shared that they’ve seen such a shift in me in the last couple of months. And you know, I just can’t say enough great things. And I highly recommend I think everyone should go through this program. And I really loved my time in the program.

Blake Schofield 23:38 Thank you. It’s been an honor, and I can’t wait. So we get to maximize your path when the right opportunity comes. Right. And I know that you have, I think what you said, it’s not just that you have the confidence, you have the proof that shows that you’ve learned the skills, and you’re applying them to find the right thing. And at the end of the day, desperation rarely yields the right result. Right. But being clear headed, having the right strategy understanding what you really need does. So I can’t wait to see where you end up landing and helping you win that place and time comes. With that said, I hope those of you guys listening were really inspired by what Maureen had to share. I think there’s so many lessons to be gleaned here about the ways of which sometimes we are unnecessarily creating our own suffering, the ways of which being willing to share how you’re feeling and what you’re experiencing and ask for support and help will open up avenues in ways you probably couldn’t have never expected and what I often see right I guess the third thing I would say is what I often see is this very black and white perspective of well what if I do this and I don’t get that? What if right exactly how I feel right now is exactly how I’m gonna feel later. What if I do this and I’m not successful at all. It’s it’s very black and white perspective that very rarely is true. That creates a lot of suffering. And what I think’s really beautiful is that you’ve been able to really shift from that to a place of grace and a place of self trust and a place of having the tools to actually really create what you want. So thank you so much for joining me. And for those of you guys listening, I hope you have a fabulous week ahead. Thanks for joining me today. Rather than hope the grass will be greener identify what the right next step is. We can help you do just that. Get clarity on where you are in your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optimal paths to get there, and the right next step to take. Start your complimentary personalized career fulfillment plan at Again, you can get your personalized career fulfillment plan at Thanks again for joining and have a great week ahead.